最近一位女性友人與拍了九年拖的男朋友感情出現問題。
男的想要自由，想嘗新。
女的，因為一路感情很穩定，一時接受不了男方提出分開。
他們有著時間的約定。
男的了無牽掛；女的牽腸掛肚。
作為朋友的我，看見她那麼痛苦，不知可以做什麼。
對於他，我不想置評；對於她，我只想她能早日放得低。
這首歌，很能表達我的心聲。
希望「妳」知道箇中的意思：
我無法幫妳預言 委曲求全有沒有用
可是我多麼不捨 朋友愛的那麼苦痛
愛可以不問對錯 至少要喜悅感動
如果他總為別人撐傘
妳何苦非為他等在雨中
泡咖啡讓妳暖手 想擋擋妳心口裡的風
妳卻想上街走走 吹吹冷風會清醒的多
妳說妳不怕分手 只有一點遺憾難過
情人節就要來了 剩自己一個
其實愛對了人 情人節每天都過
分手快樂 祝妳快樂 妳可以找到更好的
討厭過冬 厭倦沉重 就飛去熱帶的島嶼游泳
分手快樂 請妳快樂 揮別錯的才能和對的相逢
離開舊愛 像坐慢車 看透徹了心就會是晴朗的
沒人能把誰的幸福沒收 妳發誓妳會活的有笑容
妳自信時候真的美多了
Monday, May 28, 2007
分手快樂
Sunday, May 27, 2007
「不認不認毋須認」
一路以來，道德高地是政客兵家必爭的制空點，這樣不民主，這樣不關心貧苦大眾。沒想到，反傳統道德最近也成為一個高地，這樣是打壓言論自由，這樣是不義判決。
中大學生報編委在淫審處遞交抗議書，對被評為二級不雅的兩期學生報申請上訴。上訴就上訴，為什麼要說第一次判決結果是「不義」？不什麼義？如果是不公義，是否又要研究什麼才是公義？如果編委會「你最想同什麼動物做愛」的問題，是想挑戰傳統觀念的底綫，跨越建制的規範，那又有什麼才算義？義在這個思維下早就應該沒有了既定的意義了。當每個人憑自己的信念做了該做的事，都會認為自己是正義之士。淫審處成員根據各自認為社會大眾所能接受的標準作出判決，也會認為自己做了一件正義長存的事，問題是正義的定義也是隨時代地點而流轉的。要挑戰建制，我建議學生們不要再借助建制的字眼了，否則有輸打贏要之嫌。與其抗議判決不義，不如說判決不公平、不準確、不恰當，這麼多選擇，幹嘛要動輒擺正義上台？用字如此不講究，又如何用精確的文字技巧打破大眾對性的討論框框？
戴上口罩，頭上有一把紙刀，寓意遭權威迫害，學生們表面上垂下頭，精神卻站在言論自由的高地。言論自由，不失為金融業以外香港最重要的支柱。但天下沒有免費午餐，言論不能不負責任。你看馬力，他何嘗不是挑戰香港人的記憶力與良知？不過他沒有受審裁就是了。
我堅持出版自由，但也堅持環保，紙張有價，像以過時粗口諧音做標題出現在今時今日的學生報，被砍下的那段樹木真是枉死。為什麼一份大學學生報需要有兩版情色版？香港似乎不缺這方面的渠道，要有專家學者學術解答的信箱並不缺，要看情色小說，別老說《金瓶梅》，內地台灣都足夠我們看過夠。難道學生報沒有更多讓中大生得到思考的題目了嗎？性當然要談，但談得夠水準才不枉印刷的紙張。
我沒有意思要唐君毅復生來對學生們的表現做一個義或不義的評價，只要求蔡子強先生解釋一下為什麼不認錯就是將來對社會有承擔的表現。
我沒有意思說學生用性來挑戰權威有錯。我只驚訝那些問卷設計的水準之低，情色小說必要性之低，用「大波蓮」來做筆名的譁眾企圖之高。他們在意圖上沒有錯，所以不可以認錯。
但眼高手低，不認錯也可以平和謙厚一點。如今以純熟的社會運動姿態，無辜讓性這樣等閒事鬧上刑事，萬一有人受不住壓力認錯，就平白讓言論自由這牌匾給侵蝕了。
林夕
載於U Magazine, 78期
中大學生報編委在淫審處遞交抗議書，對被評為二級不雅的兩期學生報申請上訴。上訴就上訴，為什麼要說第一次判決結果是「不義」？不什麼義？如果是不公義，是否又要研究什麼才是公義？如果編委會「你最想同什麼動物做愛」的問題，是想挑戰傳統觀念的底綫，跨越建制的規範，那又有什麼才算義？義在這個思維下早就應該沒有了既定的意義了。當每個人憑自己的信念做了該做的事，都會認為自己是正義之士。淫審處成員根據各自認為社會大眾所能接受的標準作出判決，也會認為自己做了一件正義長存的事，問題是正義的定義也是隨時代地點而流轉的。要挑戰建制，我建議學生們不要再借助建制的字眼了，否則有輸打贏要之嫌。與其抗議判決不義，不如說判決不公平、不準確、不恰當，這麼多選擇，幹嘛要動輒擺正義上台？用字如此不講究，又如何用精確的文字技巧打破大眾對性的討論框框？
戴上口罩，頭上有一把紙刀，寓意遭權威迫害，學生們表面上垂下頭，精神卻站在言論自由的高地。言論自由，不失為金融業以外香港最重要的支柱。但天下沒有免費午餐，言論不能不負責任。你看馬力，他何嘗不是挑戰香港人的記憶力與良知？不過他沒有受審裁就是了。
我堅持出版自由，但也堅持環保，紙張有價，像以過時粗口諧音做標題出現在今時今日的學生報，被砍下的那段樹木真是枉死。為什麼一份大學學生報需要有兩版情色版？香港似乎不缺這方面的渠道，要有專家學者學術解答的信箱並不缺，要看情色小說，別老說《金瓶梅》，內地台灣都足夠我們看過夠。難道學生報沒有更多讓中大生得到思考的題目了嗎？性當然要談，但談得夠水準才不枉印刷的紙張。
我沒有意思要唐君毅復生來對學生們的表現做一個義或不義的評價，只要求蔡子強先生解釋一下為什麼不認錯就是將來對社會有承擔的表現。
我沒有意思說學生用性來挑戰權威有錯。我只驚訝那些問卷設計的水準之低，情色小說必要性之低，用「大波蓮」來做筆名的譁眾企圖之高。他們在意圖上沒有錯，所以不可以認錯。
但眼高手低，不認錯也可以平和謙厚一點。如今以純熟的社會運動姿態，無辜讓性這樣等閒事鬧上刑事，萬一有人受不住壓力認錯，就平白讓言論自由這牌匾給侵蝕了。
林夕
載於U Magazine, 78期
Saturday, May 19, 2007
The story of two monks
Once upon a time, two monks were walking in silence through the forest; a younger monk, Anjan, and an older monk, Ananda.
Eventually their path led to a stream. There they saw a beautiful young lady, exquisitely clad, standing on the bank. She was distressed because she wanted to cross the stream, but did not know how without getting her fine long robes wet.
Without hesitation, Ananda scooped her up, crossed the stream, and set her down in dry ground. She thanked him and continued on her way, and the monks continued on theirs, again in silence.
Anjan was uncertain, distressed and confused. He became more restless and then finally he spoke.
"Brother Ananda," he said, "I do not know what to make of it. You know our order is an austere order, and we cannot so much as speak to a woman. But you saw that lady, you picked her up and carried her across the stream! And yet..." he continued, almost choking, "You just keep on walking as if nothing happened."
"It is quite simple," Ananda replied. "I set her down on the opposite bank, but you, Brother Anjan, are still carrying her!"
- Traditional Zen story
Eventually their path led to a stream. There they saw a beautiful young lady, exquisitely clad, standing on the bank. She was distressed because she wanted to cross the stream, but did not know how without getting her fine long robes wet.
Without hesitation, Ananda scooped her up, crossed the stream, and set her down in dry ground. She thanked him and continued on her way, and the monks continued on theirs, again in silence.
Anjan was uncertain, distressed and confused. He became more restless and then finally he spoke.
"Brother Ananda," he said, "I do not know what to make of it. You know our order is an austere order, and we cannot so much as speak to a woman. But you saw that lady, you picked her up and carried her across the stream! And yet..." he continued, almost choking, "You just keep on walking as if nothing happened."
"It is quite simple," Ananda replied. "I set her down on the opposite bank, but you, Brother Anjan, are still carrying her!"
- Traditional Zen story
Wednesday, May 16, 2007
"Join world cities in action on climate, HK urged"
Leading European politicians yesterday urged Hong Kong to join a network of cities sharing their experiences on climate change and to put all climate-change policies in the hands of a single, powerful top official.
Anders Wijkman, a Swedish member of the European Parliament, and British member of parliament Elliot Morley made those appeals at a seminar on climate change organised by the British consulate-general and Civic Exchange.
Mr Wijkman, the parliament's rapporteur for a post-2012 agreement on climate change, said that since environmental issues involved diverse factors and sectors, it was best to if policy and implementation was put in the hands of one powerful top official.
In Europe, for the past couple of years, climate change is no longer just an environmental issue," he said. "If I were in Hong Kong, I would not put the responsibility on the environmental protection [authority], but on the chief minister, because it affects all sectors."
Mr Morley, Prime Minister Tony Blair's special representative on the Gleneagles climate change dialogue set up by the Group of Eight nations, said Hong Kong could learn more about how to deal with the issue if it followed London and New York in joining some low-carbon-city networks.
Although Mr Morley did not name any networks, some of the most cited are the Large Cities Climate Leadership Group - which involves leaders of 46 of the most polluted cities, including London and New York - and the World Cities Leadership Summit.
"Hong Kong's involvement in that kind of organisation, where people can share experience and ideas, can be a very good thing," Mr Morley said after the breakfast seminar, "The Politics of Climate Change - Shaping Post-Kyoto".
It was held as talks about climate change in Hong Kong are intensifying before an International Conference on Climate Change in the city later this month.
Mr Wijkman said various sectors, from food to agriculture, had a significant impact on carbon dioxide emissions and that it was difficult to oversee them holistically under different policy portfolios. The European Union was considering action on all fronts, from limiting vehicle carbon emissions to eco-product design, he said.
Mr Morley said moving towards a low-carbon economy was an inevitable trend that was bound to affect people's daily lives. "Carbon will become as important as their salaries, and it will be managed at the individual level," he said, citing Britain's innovative proposal of a personal carbon credit card - through which a person can track the carbon footprint of their purchases.
The European politicians flew to Beijing yesterday to meet officials from the environment and resources committee under the National People's Congress.
(15 May, 2007, SCMP)
Anders Wijkman, a Swedish member of the European Parliament, and British member of parliament Elliot Morley made those appeals at a seminar on climate change organised by the British consulate-general and Civic Exchange.
Mr Wijkman, the parliament's rapporteur for a post-2012 agreement on climate change, said that since environmental issues involved diverse factors and sectors, it was best to if policy and implementation was put in the hands of one powerful top official.
In Europe, for the past couple of years, climate change is no longer just an environmental issue," he said. "If I were in Hong Kong, I would not put the responsibility on the environmental protection [authority], but on the chief minister, because it affects all sectors."
Mr Morley, Prime Minister Tony Blair's special representative on the Gleneagles climate change dialogue set up by the Group of Eight nations, said Hong Kong could learn more about how to deal with the issue if it followed London and New York in joining some low-carbon-city networks.
Although Mr Morley did not name any networks, some of the most cited are the Large Cities Climate Leadership Group - which involves leaders of 46 of the most polluted cities, including London and New York - and the World Cities Leadership Summit.
"Hong Kong's involvement in that kind of organisation, where people can share experience and ideas, can be a very good thing," Mr Morley said after the breakfast seminar, "The Politics of Climate Change - Shaping Post-Kyoto".
It was held as talks about climate change in Hong Kong are intensifying before an International Conference on Climate Change in the city later this month.
Mr Wijkman said various sectors, from food to agriculture, had a significant impact on carbon dioxide emissions and that it was difficult to oversee them holistically under different policy portfolios. The European Union was considering action on all fronts, from limiting vehicle carbon emissions to eco-product design, he said.
Mr Morley said moving towards a low-carbon economy was an inevitable trend that was bound to affect people's daily lives. "Carbon will become as important as their salaries, and it will be managed at the individual level," he said, citing Britain's innovative proposal of a personal carbon credit card - through which a person can track the carbon footprint of their purchases.
The European politicians flew to Beijing yesterday to meet officials from the environment and resources committee under the National People's Congress.
(15 May, 2007, SCMP)
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
怎樣談性才是'對'?
性，怎樣談，也死 ！
譚嘉瑛
新婦女協進會 外務副主席
譚嘉瑛
新婦女協進會 外務副主席
看到各大報刊對中大學生報情色版的評論，同道問道，妳/你們撐中大學生報嗎？「撐」，這陣子團體忙著很多的「撐」，空間漸細，沒錯，不「撐」開那有氣抖。 可是，伸手伸腳也一一給折斷，言論收窄，聲音壓止。再來個「淫褻及不雅物品條例」，民意訴求，紀律處分。可恨是，我們只得一則「淫褻」條例，給它評一評， 過關蓋印，什麼也是淫褻和不雅 (當中包括阿嬌被偷拍的身體、劉嘉玲被侵犯的照片)。
性，根本是眼前走不掉抹不去的，卻被硬生生說似是何等神秘不可冒犯，可是人人也在談，為何假惺惺。
各大傳媒每天報導獨家猛料勁料，圖文並茂展示「偷窺」、「纏擾」得來的性話題。這樣談性，還是擔心銷量而已。可是，大家還是邊鬧邊買，邊買邊鬧。
電台談性，醫學專題太乏味，燃情小品假浪漫，還是嘩眾取寵夠賣點，來個「選舉我最想非禮的女藝人」，結果道歉還道歉，Show照加廣告再接，大家還再給他/她們多加進賑，人氣非常。
正正經經的作個人物專訪吧，結果「同志‧戀人」遭強烈勸喻，強加「鼓吹同性戀」、「影響青少年」，大家也來砌砌民意數字，「直」指「同性」不是好的性。
為著怎樣談性，我們也費盡思量，碰釘無數。過往我們反對「貞操大遊行」，反對「淫褻」條例強硬管制，回響著婦團無低線，道德淪亡，沒有好好 保障女性福祉。抗議「架勢堂」事件，譴責不尊重女性身體自主麼，又說婦團保守落伍，不懂情趣。我們舉辦「性與人權」工作坊，沒有真人表演，沒有玩具試玩， 總擔心招生不足。「女‧性‧網」談性，還是找找過來人分享，總比學術泛濫好，有hit rate才有回應，有回應才有討論。軟性硬性談性，談何容易。
與其上網看雜誌入影院接受真正性教育，還是讚嘆中大學生報的勇氣，以年青人角度談性，打破無謂禁忌，引起性議題討論思潮。情色版內容豐富，涉及主題廣泛，慨歎就是學生入世未深，敵不過「道德審裁處」，碰上一樣的釘子。
筆者只是想說，談性，現在怎樣談，也死！談性，談不來，再談吧。學生勇士受祭旗了，還有千千萬萬個勇士嗎？
*****
身為曾是中大學生的我，心情很矛盾。不煩厭地又要再說，曾幾何時我在性教育課摘了個A，不期然覺得自己有責任對這事件有一個立場。我以為那又不是一樁悍衛道德的人對言論自由及性作出批判。事實上，當我看過那份問卷，再翻閱幾篇情色版的文章，不禁慨嘆這些學生編輯似乎做得太馬虎。我在那裏尋找的是 － 意義。他們對於指摘的一些回應，對我來說只是自圓其說。對於他們的那份加入情色版於學生報中的勇氣，不可置疑。勇是勇，勇得沒有條理。他們應該熟悉他們的讀者，所身處的社會，所背負的道德思想；他們應該知道怎樣做才能把這些性議題慢慢滲透於這些那些當中。一來便是最受爭議的性事如亂倫及獸交，哪會有人讓他們順利過關呢？至於他們設計這些題目背後的目的，確實模糊。我贊成社會應多談論性，但中大學生報所採取的方向只是自尋死路，更讓衛道之仕有藉口扼殺討論的空間及自由。講性，我們當然要那份不怕說的勇氣，但我們也需要一些智慧。
Sunday, May 13, 2007
'Mama, I love you!'
Mama - Spice GirlsClick here to watch the music video
She used to be my only enemy
and never let me free,
Catching me in places
that I know I shouldn't be,
Every other day I crossed the line,
I didnt mean to be so bad,
I never thought you would
Become the friend I never had.
Back then I didnt know why,
Why you were misunderstood,
So now I see through your eyes,
All that you did was love,
Mama I love you, mama I care,
Mama I love you, mama my friend,
My friend
I didnt want to hear it then but
Im not ashamed to say it now,
Every little thing you said and did was right for me,
I had a lot of time to think about,
About the way I used to be,
Never had a sense of my responsibility.
Back then I didnt know why,
Why you were misunderstood,
So now I see through your eyes,
All that you did was love,
Mama I love you, mama I care,
Mama I love you, mama my friend, my friend
But now I'm sure I know why,
Why you were misunderstood,
So now I see through your eyes,
All I can give you is love,
Mama I love you, mama I care,
Mama I love you, mama my friend,
My friend
Mama I love you, mama I care,
Mama I love you, mama my friend,
You're my friend
Saturday, May 12, 2007
Triumph, the Jamboree!!!
It's an utmost surprise!!!Well, I didn't expect these 'little kids' could win in the Jamboree, given that they only practised twice for it. So, yeah, NOTHING is really IMPOSSIBLE!
My note to them after their speeches:'You all looked GREAT on stage! WELL DONE! Remember, it's not easy to speak in front of such crowd - you're BRAVE ones!'
Here's a note in reply:
To: Ms Mok
Thank you very much! Actually I don't care about the result. Because I think it's just a practice for us to get some experiences about public speaking. But thank you for your word "BRAVE" and your teaching.
P.S. My words may be ugly and spelt wrongly, but that's what I think in my heart.
Yours
Edward
So right! The process and the experience are far more important!
'HURRAY!'
Tuesday, May 08, 2007
Saturday, May 05, 2007
Here comes 'Pirates of the Carribean: At World's End'!
We find our heroes Will Turner (Orlando Bloom), Elizabeth Swann (Keira Knightly) alled with Captain Barbossa (Geoffrey Rush) in a desperate quest to free Captain Jack Sparrow (Johnny Depp) from his mind-bending trap in Davy Johnes Locker while the terrifying ghost ship, The Flying Dutchman and Davy Johnes, under the control of the East India Trading Company, wreaks havoc across the Seven Seas. Navigating through treachery, betrayal and wild waters, they must forge their way to exotic Singapore and confront the cunning Chinese pirate Sao Feng (Chow Yun-fat). Now headed beyond the very ends of the earth, each must ultimately choose a side in a final, titanic battle as not only their lives and fortunes, but the entire future of the freedom-loving pirate way, hangs in the balance.In theatre on 24 May, 2007.
You can't miss it!
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